Do You Love Me, Too? Perceptions of Responses to I Love You

摘要: Saying I love you to a romantic partner for the first time in new relationship is terrifying moment that exposes initiator vulnerability and can sway balance of power within relationship. However, this also be receivers you, especially if they do not their partners return. The then have choose whether honest with partner-potentially hurting partner's feelings-or dishonest preserve feelings while being untrue themselves. In type awkward situation, it possible women men may prefer different responses you. One reason timelines falling love. Harrison Shortall (2011) surveyed college students explore which gender says first. Contrary popular perceptions fall first, found reported more quickly were likely say addition at rates, motives saying partners. To investigate such motives, Brantley, Knox, Zusman (2002) when why time. They than so as means obtaining sex from Thus, ulterior Not only order partners, but evidence suggests other reasons well. For example, diary study students' relationships indicated force commit (Owen, 1987). By contrast, refrain presumably because better able distinguish related emotions like or lust, view role reactive men's proactive Therefore, seems often move forward either emotionally (i.e., commitment) physically sex). Whereas obtain appear use opposite strategy, namely using Consistent notion, Regan Dreyer (1999) questioned about engaging casual engage improve social status show sexual prowess, whereas chances long-term committed According Reiss (1981), pattern result patriarchal society receive positive reinforcement promiscuous, are justified having involved. It intercourse goals mind. Sexual Strategies Theory (Buss & Schmitt, 1993), maximum reproductive fitness, should operate on short-term mating strategy involves impregnating many possible, mates carefully chosen resources protection. Buss Schmitt (1993) suggest women, need act want when, fact, all sex. one way attempt convince commitment. waiting until has been said how attain emotional resource investment men. …